STELLA -Hello Fancy.. Can we talk? I am a journalist
FANCY – Hey Stella, Happy new year. Sure, what would you like to discuss? Please Let me know
STELLA – About all these stuff going on: do you wanna grant me an interview?
i was really excited and looking forward to you and Alexx’ reconciliation but it looks like that’s not happening anytime soon what went wrong?
I will understand if you dont wanna talk but i would advice you do.
FANCY -I have seen your blog before, it’s positive, especially when you speak of Alexx and I.
I’ve never done an interview about this, I chose silence but Alexx continues to want me to make public apologies and it’s hurting me in so many ways. I have never even shared reasons why I left. I know he has an image to protect for him to look cool. But this last apology statement we wrote together broke me and it was just all for revenge from him to clear his image and ruin mine.
STELLA – Why did you break off your engagement Fancy?
FANCY – There are so many reasons I ended it. It’s very personal. I don’t want to embarrass him or myself further. If I say why, people will say well how obvious was that and you ignored the red flags. We tried to reconcile, I asked for us to do it privately, get counseling , he disagreed. Even his family and friends said privately would be better but he needed the grand gesture apology so he can have the grand wedding he wants again. Not caring the issues were still there.
STELLA -Now let me ask you straight up.. There has been so much talk going round since you broke up with Alexx… They say you found out that he swings both ways? if its not true, at least correct that impression that your break up caused, it would only be fair to him…
FANCY -We can’t, it’s too messy, i tried my best. He wanted to get back with me as much as I did. We’ve been at this for one year. But he felt since I broke up with him I should do more of the work. I was fine with that but his methods are cruel and constantly public
His s#xuality is not the reason I broke up with him. I’m very open minded so regardless of what he prefers, love is love for me. I loved him for his personality and heart nothing more. He didn’t want to be with me intimately which was confusing and difficult for me to understand especially for 5 years so it did affect my self esteem as I kept myself for him and when he would cheat with curvy women he wouldn’t perform with them either so I don’t know, I can’t confirm or deny his s#xuality but for me, I loved him despite all and he still found ways to hurt me.
STELLA – Dated five years and no intimacy? Did you confirm he was cheating? caught him or you were told?
FANCY -Yes, that is embarrassingly true. When I met him I didn’t have much experience so it was easy to convince me that his decision was because of religion. But as he would constantly cheat and yes I caught him, it would hurt me because that’s not part of the religious believe he made our celibacy to be. Honestly this whole thing has been complicated beyond words so it’s unhealthy for me to continue this relationship. I guess I needed this post he begged me to dp so that i can see his intention was just to clean up his image. I am truly sorry I ever posted a break up message, it’s a guilt that has haunted me and he plays on that. I can’t fix the past, but his constant punishment even though my live in their truth statement has truth to it, this embarrassment is not something I deserve.
STELLA -And from the break up text, it looks like you were the one to pay for the wedding both of you were to have..?
FANCY -You have seen it?
STELLA -Yes i have
FANCY – I’m so embarrassed, but everything in that message is true. At that time I was angry and sent it to close peoples and when they saw it they were shocked. It’s bad because with all that I still wanted to go back to him because I loved him. But it being so public has made it impossible to repair this.
STELLA – Do you think too many outsiders are involved in this? Have both families intervened?
FANCY – Way too many, My family does not want him anymore in our family. They know too much. They were In support of a reconciliation if it was private. But his tit for tat was concerning. That August statement not being enough was concerning. He only focused on my reactions; never on his actions.
orgiving with his next person and not be so consumed with having the perfect image because it’s draining to keep that up. My mental health can’t tolerate our relationship anymore.STELLA – Wow. Catch a hug from me Sissy!
Thank you for opening up to me, I pray you both find closure from this.
FANCY – No problem. There’s been reports that he blocked me on the social media; that’s not true, that would be really bad on him. I don’t want people to think that. He just revealed himself to me after the post very quickly. I genuinely feel bad all this is happening, I was hoping for a different outcome but God knows best. Thank you for your hug and prayers for us:..