So many couples think about hot sex all the time, but when it comes to the big show, they are total duds in bed. If your partner is rolling their eyes every time you try to please, you need to handle the problem quickly. If you have heard from your partner that they are bored and tired of the “same old sex”, it’s probably time to step out of your comfort zone.
Here are 5 ways to spice up your sex life!
Live Out Your Fantasies
Everybody has fantasies. If you find yourself in a sexual rut, consider living out a few of your fantasies to get your juices flowing again. Talk to your partner about your sexual fantasies before you just “go for it”. We all like different things and some of your fantasies might not mesh too well with your partner. Be open and honest about your fantasies. There is no reason to only do it at 50%. More than likely, your partner wants you to share your fantasies – so talk to them.
Be Spontaneous
Spontaneous sex is an easy way to spice up your sex life. There are so many couples out there that do it on the same day at the same hour every week for years. It’s all about shaking thing up and when you’re following the same schedule every week for years it’s bound to put you to sleep. Turn your sex life upside down by getting more spontaneous. Meet your partner for a nooner or wake up an hour early for morning sex before work. There are tons of ways that you can become more spontaneous in your sex life.
Extend Foreplay
Foreplay is another great way to increase both your sexual pleasure. So many guys try to skip out on foreplay and get right to sex. Remember that sex is always half and half. You give a little and you get a little. She will be far more willing to have sex with you, when she’s as turned on as you are! There should always be compromise during sex, but when you’re in a long-term relationship it’s hard to not go through the same sequence of events every time. Women love foreplay just as much as sex so it’s important to remember that the kisses and the licking have as much of an effect as thrusting away at her – maybe even more. Extend your foreplay and you will discover exactly how creative you can be with 10-20 extra minutes to get the juices flowing.
Try New Sex Positions
Sex positions are an often over-looked way to spice things up. Couples tend to rely on a few different positions that seem to work. Missionary, doggy, girl on top and the spoon are the most common, but they don’t exactly spell out excitement after 3-4 years. If you’re looking for a quick way to add variety to your sex life, consider some lesser-known sex positions. Try a new sex position every week, or every day if you’re feeling really adventurous. Being truly sexy is about embracing the unknown and a new batch of sex positions could be the answer you’re looking for.
Get Out Of The Bedroom
The bedroom is the most common place for couples to have sex. Because of it’s comfort and familiarity, the bedroom can quickly become the most boring place for you and your partner to have sex. Taking your sexual activities out of the bedroom is a great idea to add some spice to your sex life. Try having sex in a different room or in a different building all together if you want to breath new life into your carnal activities. Make a pact with your partner to have sex at least once a week in a different room. Make it a game to try to find a new place to do it every time. A lot of couples find that after having sex in a new room they feel closer and more playful.
Source: Ask Dan & Jennifer
